Moving away from friends and family can be a scary prospect. It’s sometimes necessary to move away: for work, for school, or for space away from the in-laws who drive you crazy. But, just because it can be intimidating, doesn’t mean that moving far away from friends and family is going to be a bad thing.
How to Make New Friends
One of the exciting parts of starting over in a new town is that you can meet new people and form new friendships. As an added bonus, making new friends is one of the easiest ways to make your new town feel like home.
While meeting people can be intimidating, there are so many ways to go about it. So you’ll be able to make new friends no matter what your anxiety level is when it comes to speaking to new people. Some ways you can make new people is by joining a soap-making class, attending one of the many Meetups in the area, or bringing your neighbours a fruit bowl. (If you want some more tips on meeting your neighbours and making new friends see our post on the topic.)
Explore Your New City
Another way you can ease the pain of separation is to learn about and explore your new home. The more you know about it, and the less likely you are to get lost driving to the grocery store, the more at home you will feel there.
Every town or city has something exciting to see and Victoria is no different. If you are moving here for the first time and don’t know what to do or where to go, here are a few places to check out:
- Craigdarroch Castle
- Hatley Castle (which is one of the locations where X-Men and Deadpool were filmed)
- Fisherman’s Wharf
- Butchart Gardens
- Shaw Ocean Discovery Center
- Royal British Columbia Museum
- Victoria Butterfly Gardens
- Swan Lake
- Thunderbird Park
- Parliament buildings
- Mount Douglas Park
You can also explore the area by going on a whale watching tour, visiting the Lieutenant Governor’s home, or canoeing on the Gorge.
Step Back from Social Media
If you are constantly logging onto Facebook to scan the pages of your friends and family from back home with wistful longing, it’s a good idea to step back and limit your time. Not only does this give you more time to focus on finding new friends, making a good impression at work, or getting your kids settled into their new schools, it also stops you from constantly being bombarded with the sights of things you miss.
Moving to a new place can be incredibly lonely at first. But there are so many different ways you can stay connected with those you left behind: you can FaceTime them and see their face, you can write letters—and ask them to send you some to fill up your mailbox. But that pain and loneliness don’t have to last forever, it doesn’t even have to last for a month. As you get to know your new city and the people you share it with, it will soon feel like your new hometown and you’ll figure out which pubs are your favourite, which parks are the best to find sea glass or sea shells, and where you can go in town to feel like you’ve walked back to where you lived before.