Moving from one home into another is a monumental task. You are packing your entire life into boxes and bringing them to a new place. Then, once you’ve arrived at your new home, you still have to unpack all of the boxes so you can live there comfortable and use all of your things.

You probably know that asking for help will make the whole process easier. But, when you are no longer moving from a college dorm to your second, third, or fourth-year home, it can feel like a huge imposition to ask people for help. You know they are busy: they have jobs, families, crazy volunteer schedules at the cat shelter.

However, if you need the help, it is okay to ask for it. Your friends and family might love to help you out, but you will never know unless you ask them. So, if you want a hand, here are a few tips on how to ask without causing them to never speak to you again.

Help Them First

Friends helping each other move.

If you know that you will be moving sometime in the future and that you will likely need help with it, start helping out your friends and family members with different tasks. It might not be moving them to a new home; you could babysit their children so they can go out on a date, watch their pets while they are vacationing in Hawaii, or mow their yard while they are recovering from knee surgery. Then, when it comes time, and you need help, you won’t feel like you are exploiting them when you ask.

Offer Them a Reward

If you still feel guilty asking for their help, you can always offer them something in exchange for their support. This could be beer and pizza the day you are moving, invite them over for the housewarming party once the dust has settled, or give them a gift and a thank-you card. The last time I moved it was pretty close to Thanksgiving, so I baked apple pies for those who helped me.

Give Enough Warning

Asking friends for help to move.

If you plan on asking someone to help you do the heavy lifting, like moving your washing machine, fridge, and dryer, and you’ll need their truck to do so, be sure to give them lots of notice. If you can, give them at least a week’s warning; although, giving them even more time is probably better especially if they are fairly busy people. That way they can write it down in their schedule before they book something else.

Let Them Say “No”

No matter how nicely you ask, not everyone is going to agree to help you move. Let them know that it’s okay and ask someone else—even if the reason they can’t help sounds pretty shaky. Try not to take it personally, or hold it against them. Perhaps they have a legitimate reason that they are unwilling to share.

Finally, remember that there are some aspects of moving that are better left in the hands of professionals. So to save your friend’s pride and back, leave those tasks to us and send us a message to ask for a quote today.